Sunday, 27 October 2013

When a Loved one says F U

I had (have) a friend who repeated this saying " Each to their own" over and over again in her quest for independence and for people not to judge her. But the truth of the matter is that she said it in order for her to do and say what she wanted and for people to leave her be.

In recent weeks I have had a loved one disappoint me so much that I honestly had to take a mental time-out before actually typing up this post.

This person is someone who I have always been there for and in all fairness is someone who has always been there for me but the way in which this situation has been handled has left me with a sour taste in my mouth. It is so sad that people who you allow into your life can easily turn around and you basically spit in your face.

People who love you should always be honest with you and you should always remember that those who love you will only give you their thoughts or opinions based on protecting your best interests and here's MY life opinion - IF I do not agree with some of your choices then fine, live with it and I will do the same but do not go and badmouth me for not condoning your pathetic life choices.

This person has acted in a way which is disheartening and although there will be a time when I will be in this person's life but the truth is just like a cheating man, you'll take them back into your life but you will never look at them the same way. I think you can forgive and forget but there is no need to replay.

What are your thoughts? How do you forgive someone who has completely shattered your faith in your relationship?


Anonymous said...

disappointment is the worst feeling

Anonymous said...

I am sorry to hear about your experience. Unfortunately people- friends will disappoint you sometimes, that's life. Sorry but I don't have any real solution either, I usually walk away because I can't bear the pretence of smiling at someone I no longer trust. It is good to forgive but I find it impossible to forget. :|

Nats ~Coral Tinted Perceptions said...

Yeah - I think it's the surprise factor that winds you

Nats ~Coral Tinted Perceptions said...

Thanks! I wish walking away was an easy and doable option but I don't think that will work