Champagne and Roses

Marriage is not easy.

It's not all about champagne and roses. It's not what the movies make it to be but it is special - when it's right. 

As many of you may know, I am not married but I have had the pleasure/honour/joy/pride to watch one of the best marriages I know my entire life. Today my parents are celebrating their 31st wedding anniversary (read what I said about their 30th)  and while there are many couples surrounding them who are crumbling they are staying strong. 

I spend a lot of time with my parents, I've always been a homebody but I think it has allowed me the opportunity to see the makings of a marriage. 

My parents were 20 and 21 when they got married and while there were many doubters (as you can imagine) I can proudly say that now most people I know refer to my parents' marriage as the one they want to have. 

It's not because they drink champagne or that my dad sends my mom flowers every now and then but rather it's the fact that my mom can only drink my dad's tea. My dad's favourite meals can all be made by my mom. My mom has the ability to listen to the same stories my dad enjoys retelling without necessarily advising him that she already knows how it ends and my dad who would drive up and down within hours if my mom needed or even wanted something (big or small).

My parents are the High School Sweethearts we all hoped to be (when we're in High School) and the thing about them is they still walk around holding hands not to display PDA but rather to just be near one another. Their's is a marriage I hope for. I don't need the champagne and roses if I one day get what they get. 

Anyway, have an awesome day and I wish my parents the happiest wedding anniversary yet, I look forward to watching the next 31 years!

Tuesday Thought - Know When to Walk Away

If you hear ant of these lines, he 's definitely breaking up with you. Walk away with as much dignity as you can muster.

1.It's not you, it's me

2. You're such a sweet girl...

3. I just need time to find myself.

4. I'm not ready for a serious relationship, or a casual one, or any relationship.... with you

5.You're better off without me/too good for me/beneath me

6. I'm moving away/don't have a long time to live.

7. I can't see you anymore. This whole thing is just making me ill.

8. If you were slimmer, had red hair and didn't have the deformed toe, I think I could marry you.

9. I think I'm allergic to your saliva.

10.I want to be free to be with someone who agrees with me about things.

11.It's not your fault, I just feel like I don't want to see your big fat face anymore.

12.If I were ready for love, it wouldn't be with you.

13. If you wanted sex more often, I wouldn't need to sleep with anyone else.

14. I find the smell of you off-putting.

15. My ex is haunting me.

 

 

This is an extract from my current book, Never Google Heartbreak by Emma Garcia. I am almost done with it but it's really funny and relatable. I actually know people who have heard some of the above mentioned excuses.

 

 

 

 

Is this extract missing any options out?  Have you heard anything like these or worse? Come on, share your knowledge...

 



Help! I just don't get it

I will warn you in advance that I may ramble a bit in today's post.. but that's because it's been one of "those"weeks...
Let me explain : firstly, I fell up the stairs yesterday! SecondlyThe stairs are like fire escape stairs with green paint.. and now my really pretty coral skirt has green paint all over it *sulking*, thirdly I was on my way home and needed to go past the shopping mall but when I got home and my mother called me 20 minutes later to ask me about getting something, I realised I forgot to go to the mall - at all! and lastly.. I've had the most annoying bad hair days - and I won't even explain what my red velvet cupcakes looked like.

Ok, maybe my third issue on the list doesn't sound like much but I am not that person. I am not usually scatter brained so being scatter brained is really annoying me because I feel like I'm on a carousel - moving but getting no where.

Back to my post - there's this guy,  X, who appears to be like a really nice guy. I see him around work and he is always smiling at me and often emails me various chain mails which are then followed up with (in Joey's voice) 'how you doing?' mails. Perhaps maybe Joey's tone is too strong but maybe a more friendly tone. Either way - for a while I have continued to respond to these mails in my usual bubbly tone but not trying to be too engaging because I do not want to lead him on.

However, a (male) friend said that by not actually asking X about his intentions that I am in fact encouraging him because "men like the chase". And if I was to ask X and him to tell me about his intentions I imagine this [Please imagine this awkward conversation]

A few points to note:
1. There is nothing wrong with this guy, he's just not my type.
2. I am not certain I have a type but I do believe in the intial "electricity" and unfortunately for him, we didn't have it. Does number 2 contradict number 1?

Me: X, so... I think you're a great guy (he will want to puke at this stage because no one likes when a conversation starts this way) but I'm not really certain what your intentions are towards me?
X  : Why do you ask?

Now the conversation can go one of two ways:

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Option 1
Me: Well, you send me a lot of emails and are constantly trying to engage me into conversations and I get a certain vibe... *awkward silence*...
X : Well, I'm just a friendly guy, maybe you're the one with mixed intentions?
Me: Um, no, it's just that sometimes when you look at me, it feels like you would move heaven and earth if I asked and that makes me think that you like me more than just a friend because well... most friends don't care if I want earth to move
X : Natalie, I think you are projecting your feelings onto me - what are your intentions?


Option 2:
X :Well, I kind of think you're awesome and would like to see where things could go between us
Me: Well, I'm not sure (although I am sure) because I don't really see us as a couple.
X  : Why?
Me:.......................................because I don't see it.

Then I imagine things getting really weird between us and because unfortunately I don't do very well at a medium - I am either really fun and bubbly or really stand offish I forsee things becoming awkard and I don't know how to handle it! Do you?

Have you had to deal with a situation like this? What should I do? I don't want to be mean to X or anyone but I'm not sure what I can do. I don't want to be chased by him.

PS: I warned you there would be rambling...