I don’t usually just find sudden inspiration for a blog post or at least when I do I usually want to cultivate the thought process and not just spew it all out. Today is different.
This morning while I was in the shower I started thinking about someone and I couldn’t remember whether I had spoken about them recently or thought about them or dreamed about them. It wasn’t romantic it was just a thought or a flash of happy thoughts and it got me thinking this –
NO ONE IS PERMANENT IN YOUR LIFE.
Now before anyone gets upset, for those who live by faith (as do I) I know that God is my only constant but what I’m talking about here is that we go through our lives at all ages but especially as kids to teens to even our twenties (I’m hoping by your 30s you’ve had this realization) and in those precious moments that will guide us to be the adults we were meant to be we look at the people who surround us, the boyfriends, the girlfriends your boy – friends and girl – friends, teachers and even some family members and think “ they are so important to me. I love them. I can’t imagine my life without them.”
That may be the case – at.that.time.
However in reality, the inevitability of people flowing in and out of your lives you will have to live your life without those people. It’s not a bad thing and I think that’s actually what the point is of this post. It’s ok that you love or loved those people. They are exactly what you needed at that time in your life but as you transition into new phases and new places it’s OK that you won’t keep in touch like you did before. It’s OK that you have no idea who they are dating. It’s OK if you don’t get invited to their weddings (I’m not sure if this part is really ok, lol ) but basically it’s all OK because no one is permanent.
Your parents will eventually pass on, your siblings will probably get married and create a family of their own and you’ll become their secondary family. That is also OK because when you decide to get married that’s when you have your permanent person. That’ s why marriage is so important to people and the decisions we make as to who we want to share our lives with mean so much because that person, they are your permanent until then, everyone is just passing through.
Some will stay longer than you expected some will leave sooner than you would like but if you make peace with the fact that life is unpredictable but that you like yourself because you will always be the common denominator then at the end of the changes in friendships and relationships you will maintain some of your sanity because you would be at peace with the inevitable changes life will bring your way.
Thoughts, anyone?? Too deep for a Wednesday?